Date 81 - Ticket to Nowhere
M had been trying to get me to meet him for a week or two. I've been insanely busy with the day job and consulting on the side, hitting the gym, physical therapy appointments and life in general.
I know better than to give an unproven commodity access to prime time, but I felt so bad at having turned down all his previous requests that when he asked me out early in the week for Saturday night, I gave him dibs. He got on my calendar early -- that's probably the hardest part of dating me. The same day I turned down at least 3 other offers for Saturday night. First come, first served.
It was a full day: walking the dog, hitting the gym, shopping for and attending yet another bridal shower. I just wanted a nap, but instead I went home and hopped in the shower then put myself together for the date and debated my options in footwear.
I can't wear my killer boots because M is a shorty at 5'9" or 5'10". He's a software engineer with an interest in salsa dancing and is newly transplanted from
It was freezing cold last night.
I finally settled on a leather jacket that works with my outfit, should keep me warm, and isn't too over the top. Grabbed my car keys, said adios to the dog and I was on my way to
The voicemail is from M. He's canceling.
15 minutes before I'm supposed to meet him downtown.
I'm less than thrilled.
His excuse is extreme. I've never had anyone pull a card like this before - this is either completely true or total crap. For the first 5 seconds of the voicemail I'm sympathetic. Then something clicks in my gut and I call bullshit. I listened to rest of the message but only really heard "blah, blah, blah".
Someone has had a miscarriage and he's out at some bar with the woman's brother offering sympathy and a shoulder to cry on. Wow.
Since I'm out, dressed and on the road, I call a good friend to let him know I'm headed to his regular watering hole and that dinner's on me. He listens to the voicemail too and has a similar reaction. He's not able to decide whether or not this guy is for real. It really could go either way.
So, here's your option to weigh in. I'm currently on the fence. Should this guy get a second chance to make a first impression? Leave a comment.
posted by Master Dater @ 12:36 PM
1 Comments:
At 12:34 AM,
Anonymous said…
Hi MD,
Firstly let me just get something off my chest out into the universe before i read and comment on your blog. I am so annoyed because i feel i have been portrayed by the group member i have for my tute. Man i was having this debate with this horrible no it all guy in our class as we were having a class discussion. He is one of those people that butts in and answers questions asked to somebody else, thinks he knows everything and will critisise everyone elses work and give them feedback but freaks out and doesn't handle it well when we are asked to give feedback on something he said. And this girl that i was sitting with that was also agreeing with me i just saw her talking to him outside the class, clearly making a bigger deal of it then what it actually was and the way she was talking to him she was his friend and I overheard her discussing the feedback i gave - Man i feel like such an idiot rolling my eyes to her about him. Maybe i'm overreacting but i feel this girl didn't reveal her true colours and i feel like they were bitching about me - maybe i'm the one that doesn't handle critisisim well!
Ok back to the blog
You are very inspirational with everything going in your life to find time to go to the gym aswell.
I feel like gym is so far out of my league write now having just eaten a sausage roll and bucket of wedges from our poor selection cafeteria at uni.
How do you politely refuse other dates after you have been asked and you clearly have so many guys to co-ordinate haha? When they ask can they see you a couple of days later and you have to say that "well i'm actually really busy but i can see you in two weeks time" Do they get annoyed and loose interest?
Great another guy that is interested in salsa dancing- I'm a sucker for this- won't they just go away with their charm! Again another guy starting with M that can salsa dance and is a complete jack ass- great! I feel for you girl! (sarcasm)
No absolutely not he should get off this hook- If he really wanted to see you hun he probably would have invited you to where-ever he was in whatever depressing situation he was in so as to not made you feel stoodup and like he was fobbing you off- either that or he has no idea how this would make most women feel and is completely insensitive and should be avoided at all costs.
I know a dissapointment! Well just my opinion anyway.
Regards, A
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