Date 85 - Eager Beaver
C started corresponding with me right before the holidays and I was flattered by his interest. He wrote well, indicating a modicum of intelligence. His profile seemed good natured, well rounded and compelling...but there are some things that just don't come across online. In C's case that was to his benefit.
I didn't even get a chance to get out of my car in the parking lot of Sushi Sake before C pounced on me. He was definitely enthusiastic. He actually seemed to be as tall as advertised, but only vaguely resembled his picture.
When we got inside, it seemed like he'd never actually been to a restaurant before. How hard is it to say "two, please"? Since he just looked at the hostess dumbfounded I was stuck with that and specifying a table vs. sushi bar and then asking for a booth. It turns out that C isn't too familiar with sushi. That's simultaneous demerits for lack of worldliness and bonus points for being easy going and having a sense of culinary adventure. Spicy Susan,
C was good natured, but awkward. I thought it was because he wasn't interested. Right out of the gate, he used the "tell me all about you" routine. Perhaps you're familiar with it. It's the sad ploy whereby men who aren't attracted to you try to get you chattering so they don't have to engage in actual conversation with you. While you're talking, they hear Charlie Brown chatter (wah,wah....wah-wah-wah-wahhhh....) and only pay enough attention to ask the next question based on the last 3 words you spoke.
I was shocked when he asked to see me again.
It was obvious that C wasn't the guy for me. He's nice and sweet but there's not much to him. There was too much of a Leave It To Beaver quality about him for me to have any interest. Although he might not know it himself, I know who he's supposed to be with. He belongs with the doughy fat girl in an apron. A homebody. An Aunt Bea wannabe. Someone who watches soap operas, reads the latest Danielle Steele books and has a passion for baked goods and cleaning products.
....that is so NOT me.
posted by Master Dater @ 12:31 PM
2 Comments:
At 11:58 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hello MD,
How many times do you usually correspond with these guys on the net before you meet them for a date-to clearly work out that they are not crazy stalkers. This guy though seems nice and although he is nervous and isn't vry experienced wen it comes to ordering and dining out, he seems nice enough.
When you are not intereste and they ask you out again do you say "yes i'll have to see and get back to you, or that would be nice" without making a specific date or do you put it to them straight and let them know at the end of the first date- "hun this isn't going to work"
Regards, A
At 1:17 PM,
Master Dater said…
Dearest A,
If you're careful not to reveal ANY personal information (last name, phone number, real email address) you can go out with anyone from the internet. Just make sure it's in a very public place and that you've made arrangements to check in after the date with someone who loves you to confirm you're home safe. This way, if you don't check in by a certain time, your friend will be able to check on you and alert the police.
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