Teeter-tottering
Work has been an exercise in C.Y.A. lately. Definitely not fun, and not what I signed up for, but I'm hanging tough. My Friday was double booked all day long. I was dealing with more politics and spin than CJ Craig on the West Wing but when my phone rang for the 177th time that afternoon, my tone immediately softened.
It was A calling to triangulate my exact coordinates in the massive airplane hangar in which I work so he could drop by for a quick visit. It was the first (and only) 5 minutes of humanity that I had all day long; and I used it to pick up a salad that would languish on my desk untouched because I didn't have time to take a bite the rest of the day.
I was supposed to go to a party on Saturday, but my dear friends Mr. and Mrs. Fartknocker backed out. Evidently they had an orgy with Wilco in San Antonio the night before and were completely sapped of energy. No biggie. I've been tapped out myself lately, I can relate... and this low key backyard party was the most high energy thing I had planned all weekend. Since my Saturday night was suddenly free, I gave A a jingle to see what was up.
We drove to the Whole Foods mothership downtown and perused the aisles together. He fell in love with a Mexican cream ale. I had my first experience with fresh chocolate almond butter. He bought me a bottle of local wildflower honey. I introduced him to the wonders of Dr. Bronner's soaps.
It was nice to do something so low key - a non-date date.
But I felt a little strange about it too. It was nice to feel like I was one half of a couple ... even for an hour... even if it wasn't true. We seemed to portray a convincing illusion.
We headed back to his place and stopped to rent a movie on the way. He insisted on buying me Milk Duds, even though I didn't need them. I had forgotten that we had a slice of fresh Italian Cream Cake to share. The Milkduds were spared but the cream cake wasn't granted clemency. He fed me sweet forkfuls as we watched the DVD.
We snuggled up together. It was easy. Comfortable.
I don't really know where I stand with him and I'm trying to just relax about that. Maybe we're just friends. Maybe it'll be more.
It was A calling to triangulate my exact coordinates in the massive airplane hangar in which I work so he could drop by for a quick visit. It was the first (and only) 5 minutes of humanity that I had all day long; and I used it to pick up a salad that would languish on my desk untouched because I didn't have time to take a bite the rest of the day.
I was supposed to go to a party on Saturday, but my dear friends Mr. and Mrs. Fartknocker backed out. Evidently they had an orgy with Wilco in San Antonio the night before and were completely sapped of energy. No biggie. I've been tapped out myself lately, I can relate... and this low key backyard party was the most high energy thing I had planned all weekend. Since my Saturday night was suddenly free, I gave A a jingle to see what was up.
We drove to the Whole Foods mothership downtown and perused the aisles together. He fell in love with a Mexican cream ale. I had my first experience with fresh chocolate almond butter. He bought me a bottle of local wildflower honey. I introduced him to the wonders of Dr. Bronner's soaps.
It was nice to do something so low key - a non-date date.
But I felt a little strange about it too. It was nice to feel like I was one half of a couple ... even for an hour... even if it wasn't true. We seemed to portray a convincing illusion.
We headed back to his place and stopped to rent a movie on the way. He insisted on buying me Milk Duds, even though I didn't need them. I had forgotten that we had a slice of fresh Italian Cream Cake to share. The Milkduds were spared but the cream cake wasn't granted clemency. He fed me sweet forkfuls as we watched the DVD.
We snuggled up together. It was easy. Comfortable.
I don't really know where I stand with him and I'm trying to just relax about that. Maybe we're just friends. Maybe it'll be more.
posted by Master Dater @ 4:21 PM
3 Comments:
At 11:39 AM,
Anonymous said…
Are you soon going to post again? I miss yr blog!
At 7:53 AM,
Anonymous said…
Hi MD,
Am having trouble pulling myself away from your blog in order to go have a shower and brush my teeth ready for bed. I love all that you have written. I am nearlly up to date with reading your current posts section so i am excited to see where you up to 4 years ti this current date.
Here in Australia we have had a long weekend. I have realised that i have so much stuff to declutter in my life as i have moved house to a new place in Brisbane this weekend after having to move out of my ex boyfriend's house. Living with him for around 6 weeks was record- how exhausting moving house three times in two months- wouldn't recommend it. My fabulous Dad offered to help me move so it cost meand arm and a leg having to pay a removialist.
I have got my profile and my photoes all set up on a dating website and have sent out some emails and got some back. Some are from guys that i don't find attractive at all and i don't know how to politely refuse there offers without feeling like a stuck up bitch myself- who am i to judge these people, but you really can't give everyone a chance can you- you won't ever have enough time :-) Although judging from a picture- that let's face it could have been a bad picture is not enough evidense to form an opinion and decision is it? What do you think?
Aloth of guys want to meet straight away and i think to myself that this is so just a botty call service for them to dial in a girl but thenh i think maybe guys prefer to get to know the girl in person. This seems daunting and intimidating to me going on a date with them face to face before i even get to know them. I talked to one guy tonight for like 15 minutes and he was asking if i wanted to do something tomorrow! What is your experience with this MD? How many times on average do you usually email them before you decide to meet them?
To me snuggling over a movie seems to scary and full on for a first date when i don't know where i stand with him? Listen to me hahaha i sound like a teenage school girl too affraid to hold my boyfriends hand. All this is so new. I feel like i am in such deep water without knowing how to swim.
I am really enjoying your blog as usual. Am off to bed for tonight.
Regards, A
At 8:06 AM,
Master Dater said…
Dearest A,
It's a great idea to meet guys early. Don't spend much time with them on the phone, just make arrangements to meet them somewhere for coffee or a drink. Have your own transportation and don't reveal anything other than your first name (NOT EVEN YOUR PHONE NUMBER).
You decide what to reveal and when if your interest in them warrants it. Otherwise, just move on to the next one.
XO,
A
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