Work Strife Balance
I'll try to spare you, dear readers, the gory details and majority of my angst and just give you the relevant splatters.
The really cool cute guy on my team up and quit on Monday. Too bad he's too young for me, or now he'd be eligible for the dating program. Did I mention how cute he is?
He executed the most powerful form of quitting too, the "I'm not going to another job, I'm just getting away from you hateful mofos" brand of quitting. In his case, well played! Sadly, his message was quickly diluted, his thunder stolen when the next day, my boss announced his eminent departure.
My boss QUIT! I'll give you three bullet points to highlight my shock and dismay:
- Effective and local manager was key ingredient in me taking this job
- Excellent role model: successful, well connected / happy husband, involved parent
- Offered reassurance that balance was possible at zany chaotic workplace
The manager who will be his temporary replacement already cracked under the pressure of another project and attacked me in front of a coworker. Then he continued to poke and prod at me while I needed him to be OUT of my personal space. All of it got to me. Bad.
I knew I wouldn't be able to sleep with this on my mind, so I rallied that night. Everything for our dog and pony show the next morning went off without a hitch and I felt vindicated. Not because I saved the day, but because everything happened just as I had foreseen it, and the day never needed saving in the first place. *sigh*
I hate seeing red. All of this nonsense was like getting stabbed repeatedly by a matador. Yes, it pissed me off, but I was disoriented and bleeding too. If my boss, who seemed the master, couldn't make it work at this place (with a wife at home to support him, do his laundry, and offer the occasional home cooked meal) what possible chance do I have at work/strife balance?
More importantly, am I ever going to have the time or energy for a dating life while working at this place?
posted by Master Dater @ 9:26 PM
3 Comments:
At 7:49 AM,
Anonymous said…
Whow.. Is your job that hard that first a coworker and now that manager quit?
And don't worry, you'll do fine (I think..) ;)
At 10:31 AM,
Master Dater said…
Thanks for the support Emsz.
It's a pretty insane place to work; I knew it going in 3 months ago that it would be chaos.
It's not like we're saving lives or anything either! You'd think we'd all be able to keep it in perspective.
At 10:14 PM,
Anonymous said…
Hi MD,
When things get overwhelming just refelct on your blog and look at how far you have come. You seem so successfull, full of life and nothing is in your way to allow you to achieve your goals.
there's nothing that can be more stressfull then feeling under pressure or stressed at you job- the place you spend the majority of your time every single day.
Well best be off as i need to get to another campus. Thanks for all the great writing, have nejoyed as always MD
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